Are you a Time Traveller? It's quite likely that sometimes you are!
Have you spent time worrying about the future, or the past? Has the feeling ever been so strong that you feel like you're re-living the past events...or that you're almost present in the future events?
I've spent too much of my 59 years dwelling on the past or anxious about the future. Time travelling like that makes me feel tired, and confused!
Looking back at the past can be happy and fruitful - recalling fond memories, reminding ourselves of lessons we've learned and milestones we've passed. Renewing and refreshing our boundless spirits, strengthing our sense of self -those are very good for knowing who we are in the present, and steadying our steps into our future.
Looking ahead to see what we want to create, where we want to go - that's wonderful too! Creating eagerness, excitement, and determination to move forward with intention, curiosity, and delight!
Looking back or ahead can be good - but when we relive or project the events, we can get STUCK. I HATE BEING STUCK. IT FEELS BAD!
Every moment that you spend dwelling the future, trying to control events that haven't occurred yet, adds a burden of effort and enforcement to all your present moments that follow. That's because, in those present moments, you are working hard to force the future events to occur to your satisfaction, and satisfy your plans.
And when you worry about the done events in the past, you add the burden of dissatisfaction, guilt, and limited perceptions to your present. It's a double-whammy! Your present moments take on the burdens of your past AND your future!
Plans for the future start to take on the burdens of "but I failed that in the past...what if I fail again? "
No wonder time travelling made me tired and confused! I was trying to live three times as fast: the past moment, the present moment, and the future moment all rolled into one!
Does any of this sound familiar to you?
Thank goodness I figured it out, and learned tools to help me LOOK at the past, instead of reliving it. And I learned to look forward at my future with happy curiousity, instead of trying to force events to a particular outcome.
Now, gleaning the past lessons I've learned becomes joyful, with a feeling of accomplishment, instead of guilt or shame, or "why wasn't I good enough."
Looking at and planning my future becomes a welcome journey, where I have an idea of my road and my destinations, but also a wonderful sense of mystery about the unknown things I'll encounter, and a smile and a shake of my head, knowing that obstacles will crop up, wondering how I'll handle them, and feeling tickled to know that I will get past them... and after I'm past them, there will be a new lesson for me to look back and learn from.
Would you like to learn some of the tools I used?
Tools to keep me engaged with the present.
Tools that enabled me to look back at the past in a fruitful and effective way, without getting stuck.
And, tools that help me look forward with eagerness, and intention, into the future.
Comment below, or message me, and I will be happy to share my most effective tools.
Look for the publication of my book: The Seven Minute Self. Full of simple, easy, quick tools for the most enjoyment out of your authentic life.